One solid bit of relationship guidance is “The Campsite Rule.” Popularized by sex advice columnist Dan Savage, The Campsite Rule is fairly straightforward: when you’re dating someone with less experience than you, leave them in better condition than you found them. You know, like when you’re actually camping. AKA, don’t be an asshole and leave your garbage everywhere. If you’re looking for a way to ~guide~ someone through their first time, peep these positions ASAP
1 The Strummer
If you really want to show them the time of their life, put your knees on either side and assume the straddle position. Use your hand to rub your vulva and control your thrusts. He gets a sensual overload — the visual of you doing your thing on top, the new sensation of being inside you, the general OMG-I-am-having-sex. Bonus: he gets highly useful lessons on exactly how you like to be touched.
2 The Two-Timer
Sit on your partner’s lap facing them for a slow ride/make out session. Even if they’re so excited they last for two seconds—highly possible, please remain calm—they might be able to go another round. Keep kissing, working your way down to see if a little oral revives them for round two.
3 The Swan Dive
If it’s her first time, sit in bed, facing each other with your legs out and your partner semi-sitting on your lap. Gear up with lots of face-to-face intimate connection and close contact, then start stroking your partner’s clitoris. You can do this simultaneously, but for their first time it might be best to take turns. (If you’re looking for something more penetrative, a lovely ride on a double ended toy works, too.)
4 The Missionary Slide
Missionary is a classic for a reason. But instead of him jumping you and being done, start with outercourse—lube up the bottom of his shaft so he can slide it along your vulva (it’s like regular p-in-v but p doesn’t actually go inside v.) Feels amazing to you and helps him last longer. Wait ’til you’re both so turned on you can barely take it, then let him slip inside you.
5 The Lover’s Knot
The best thing about being someone’s first is that you’re, like, instructing him on exactly how you want to be fucked. If that’s slow and passionate, lie on your sides facing him with your leg draped over his hips. You can pull him toward you with your leg or he can gently move against you. The position forces you to move slowly for intense, slow-burn passion.
